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Why Do I Keep Going Back to the Same Unhealthy Patterns?

Self-gaslighting is a form of self-protection. Except when it’s not. You need to repossess your life from the inner voices and expand your choices. ...more

Change

September 10, 2025•1 min read

Three Signs You’re Gaslighting Yourself--and what you can do instead

Sometimes the person who gaslights us most effectively isn't someone we live or work with. Sometimes it's us. ...more

Resilience

September 03, 2025•2 min read

Emotional Intelligence Isn’t Always Polite

If you are aware and recognize the patterns, you can choose from among all the responses you have. And sometimes that means choosing self-protective responses even when those responses make others unc... ...more

Resilience

August 27, 2025•2 min read

Therapy Didn’t Work for Me. Now What?

Most traditional therapy focuses on what's wrong with you, makes you relive painful experiences, and expects you to get "fixed" by talking about problems. If that didn't work, you're not broken. ...more

Trauma

August 20, 2025•2 min read

Why do I keep reacting this way?

when you practice positive experiences, install good memories, and strengthen feelings like peace, contentment, or protection, you give your brain more responses from which you can choose. ...more

Trauma

August 13, 2025•2 min read

Why Do I Feel Sad When I Start to Feel Better?

Listen, if you've ever started feeling maybe more hopeful, or just less on edge, somehow “better”—only to be hit with unexpected sadness, welcome to my club. ...more

Change

August 06, 2025•2 min read

More on Power...

Power and choice are related. The choices that I learn are mine to make vary based on how others around me exercise their power. ...more

Resilience

July 30, 2025•1 min read

Power. Again.

Beliefs drive thoughts, which drive feelings and actions. We teach and model what we have learned, and our experiences inform the questions. ...more

Resilience

July 23, 2025•1 min read

TR-EQ and Power

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) can be used as a weapon against others easily. People who have higher levels of EQ can bully those who have less. ...more

Resilience

July 16, 2025•1 min read

More From Power Over to Power With: The Shift That Heals

“Power over” creates a requirement to always have a winner and a loser. This fosters meanness and incivility--after all no one likes to be a loser, and if you are, then the struggles for appropriate p... ...more

Resilience

July 09, 2025•2 min read

From Power Over to Power With: The Shift That Heals

I’ve carried the surname Power all my life, and it has taught me to think differently about what that word truly means. ...more

Resilience

July 02, 2025•2 min read

A Framework for Political Resilience

TR-EQ (Trauma-Responsive Emotional Intelligence) is a model that helps people develop the skills they missed when they were overwhelmed—often as children. ...more

Trauma

June 25, 2025•1 min read

TR-EQ and the Politics of Emotional Maturity

If the last few years have taught us anything, it’s this: the emotional maturity of a society directly shapes its political landscape. ...more

Trauma

June 18, 2025•1 min read

Brains in Alarm Can’t Learn—Why TR-EQ Is the Antidote to a Reactive World

When we are overwhelmed—whether by headlines, hostility, or our own histories—our nervous systems shift into survival mode. This “alarm state” shuts down the part of the brain responsible for learning... ...more

Trauma

June 11, 2025•2 min read